As I’ve been thinking about this, the whole double standard comment that my ex and I talked about while we fixed the ice making machine just doesn’t even seem accurate.  Here’s what I would tell him if I could:  Again I was trying to play the perfect wife, and oh please don’t be mad at me, but then when you said I don’t do the little things for you it just hit me that there is no double standard.  There is a misunderstanding, and some resentment.  When you come home or are home on the weekends do you want to sleep the whole time?  As it is you sleep a lot, and I have grown to accept that and I don’t make comments unless it gets to be even more than it normally is.  You seem to be coming across that, ‘Ok now that you go out for a total of 2 ½ hours a week, what do I get?”